You’re Allowed to Change Your Mind

Why honoring your energy matters more than following through

There’s a moment every woman knows, even if she doesn’t have language for it yet.

The moment when you say “maybe” or “yes” even though your body already whispered “no.”

For me, it showed up while talking about Thanksgiving plans. We had two invitations that day. And for a moment, I thought, I can make both work.

So I said the familiar thing many of us say when we are already stretching beyond our limits: “Maybe we’ll stop by afterward.”

But the moment those words left my mouth, my body spoke.

My belly tightened and my mind got loud and heady.

It was my body saying, “This is not true for you.”

What I did not want to admit was simple.

I didn’t want to rush through the first gathering, nor did I want to spend the afternoon driving.

I wanted presence.

I wanted space.

I wanted to linger, not perform logistics.

But the Pleaser in me panicked at the prospect of saying no.

“What if they are disappointed?”

“What if this affects the relationship?”

“What if they never invite us back?”

And then came the quiet moment of honesty.

I cannot do it all.

And it’s not fair to anyone to pretend I can.

And this is where most people override themselves, because the instinct is to follow through on what was said instead of honoring what is now true.

Inside this week’s Ritual, I walk you through how to recognize this moment and renegotiate without guilt, including the exact prompts I use when my truth shifts after I’ve already said yes.