You’re Allowed to Change Your Mind
Why honoring your energy matters more than following through
There’s a moment every woman knows, even if she doesn’t have language for it yet.
The moment when you say “maybe” or “yes” even though your body already whispered “no.”
For me, it showed up while talking about Thanksgiving plans. We had two invitations that day. And for a moment, I thought, I can make both work.
So I said the familiar thing many of us say when we are already stretching beyond our limits: “Maybe we’ll stop by afterward.”
But the moment those words left my mouth, my body spoke.
My belly tightened and my mind got loud and heady.
It was my body saying, “This is not true for you.”
What I did not want to admit was simple.
I didn’t want to rush through the first gathering, nor did I want to spend the afternoon driving.
I wanted presence.
I wanted space.
I wanted to linger, not perform logistics.
But the Pleaser in me panicked at the prospect of saying no.
“What if they are disappointed?”
“What if this affects the relationship?”
“What if they never invite us back?”
And then came the quiet moment of honesty.
I cannot do it all.
And it’s not fair to anyone to pretend I can.
When I finally said the true thing, relief arrived instantly.
That moment taught me something:
Boundaries are not rules, they are living energetic agreements.
You are allowed to renegotiate any agreement, even one you have already made, the moment your body reveals the truth.
Even if someone might be disappointed.
Even if guilt rises.
Even if it feels uncomfortable.
Integrity is the point.
Which brings us to this week’s Ritual. 🧡
The Heart of This Week’s Ritual
Most of us were conditioned to believe a painful myth:
Once you show interest, you owe follow-through.
Once you say maybe, it is basically a yes.
Once you have committed, you’re locked in, even if you change your mind.
But here’s what’s real:
A “maybe” is not a contract.
A “we’ll try” is not a promise.
And a past yes is not a lifetime obligation.
Pause here.
A boundary is not broken when you tell the truth.
It is broken when you abandon yourself in the name of follow-through.
The moment you go up into your head.
The moment your breath catches.
The moment your body tightens or rushes.
That is your boundary asking to be honored before you cross your own edge.
This week’s ritual helps you recognize that moment and respond with sovereignty instead of self-abandonment. Not through rigid rules, distancing, or forcing yourself to be boundaried (which is just more effort in disguise.)
But through remembering this:
Wholeness is the real commitment. Relief is how your body lets you know you are back in integrity.
When your truth shifts, your agreements are allowed to shift too.
This Week’s Ritual—The Renegotiation & Compassion Ritual
(Inspired by Tara Brach’s RAIN practice)
A warm, sovereign practice for when you have said yes but your body says no.
Use this ritual for any commitment that no longer feels aligned.