Me, 7 Years Later
A gentle look at the patterns that pull you away from your inner wisdom
Seven years ago, my body called BS on my life.
I had been living on hustle fumes for so long that exhaustion had become my baseline.
Proving, perfecting, powering through. It was the air I breathed.
From the outside, my life looked solid and successful.
On the inside, I was bone-tired in a way sleep could not touch.🥺
What I didn’t understand then was this:
The very patterns that helped me “get ahead” were the same ones burning me out.
Hustle wasn’t power, it was pressure.
Proving wasn’t drive, it was doubt dressed up.
Perfectionism wasn’t high standards, it was fear of being seen as not enough.
It took a long time, and a full pause, to see what was actually happening underneath it all.
Pleasing. Proving. Perfectionism.
The 3Ps.
The patterns most high-achieving women learn before we ever learn to trust ourselves.
The patterns that can shape an entire life without us realizing it.
I started noticing how they showed up everywhere:
In the way I said yes too quickly
In the way I apologized for taking up space
In the way I second-guessed my own ideas
In the way I worked twice as hard as needed
In the way I tried to “earn” rest instead of simply needing it
We don’t talk about this enough:
The 3Ps don’t just drain your energy — they disconnect you from yourself.
From your clarity.
From your intuition.
From the version of you that knows exactly what she wants and what she needs.
And the hardest part?
These patterns look like strength from the outside. They get praised and rewarded.
Which means it can take years to realize they’re costing you more than they’re giving.
You can’t sustain a soul-led life from survival energy.
Seven years later, this is the heart of my work.
I teach women how to lead their lives from soul, not self-sacrifice.
>How to reclaim their energy.
>How to hear themselves again.
>How to create from truth, not pressure.
And if you’re reading this thinking, “I feel this in my bones,”
I created something small and gentle to help you start unraveling your own patterns.
👉 Take the Survival Style Quiz
A two-minute reflection on how the 3Ps shape your clarity, your energy, and your self-trust.
https://link.pauseboxco.com/whats-your-survival-style
It’s about seeing clearly, maybe for the first time, the places where pressure has been steering your life.
This is the work that shaped everything I do now.
✨ Nothing to Prove Weekly Ritual — weekly practices to reset, release pressure, and lead with clarity.
✨ Meredith AI Coach — a free, private guide to help you pause, regulate, and make decisions from intuition instead of pressure.
The truth is, proving still shows up for me. But it no longer gets to run my life.I’m quicker now to notice when pressure is driving.
Quicker to pause.
Quicker to choose differently.
There is far more space where strain used to be.
And it leaves me with this question, one I return to again and again:
Who might you become when you have nothing to prove? 🧡
If you’re new here, the Start Here page is an gentle way to get oriented and choose what to explore first.
