A few springs ago, my daughter Mila and I visited Flag Ranch, a horse sanctuary in Paso Robles, CA. We were there to learn how horses respond to energy.
What I did not expect to learn was this.
Horses do not respond to what you say.
They respond to who you are.
If you are sad, be sad.
If you are nervous, be nervous.
Just don’t pretend.
Their survival depends on energetic truth. Horses only trust congruence, when energy, emotion, and action are aligned.
At first, I struggled. I wanted to do it “right.”
The more I tried, the more disconnected I felt.
Then something shifted.
I stopped performing.
I softened.
I simply was.
That is when one of the horses, Skye, began following me around the corral. Kimberly, the ranch owner smiled and said,
“She never does that. She must feel safe with you.”
In that moment, it clicked.
Effort alone doesn’t create results.
Congruence does.
And the same is true in life.
When results stall, it is rarely because you are not doing enough.
It is because what you are doing is out of sync with what is actually true for you.
Congruence is when your actions match your internal reality.
Not polished. Not optimized. Just honest.
When congruence is present, things move with less force.
When it is missing, no amount of effort can compensate.
So this week, do not fix your energy.
Just notice it.
Notice where you are pushing through something your body is resisting.
Notice where you are saying yes while quietly contracting inside.
Name what is true, without judgment.
That honesty is what restores flow.
Let’s practice. 🧡
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🔥 Prompt 1:
“Where in my life am I pushing through resistance instead of listening to it?”