Stop Batting Away the Good Stuff
How to stop deflecting praise and start letting it land.
One of the Prover’s sneakiest habits?
Deflecting the good.
A compliment, an offer of help, recognition for a job well done—your reflex is to bat it away or shrink it down before it can actually land.
That’s the Prover pattern at work.
It’s a built-in reflex designed to keep you earning, proving, and over-delivering… even when you’ve already done enough.
Here’s your pattern interrupt: receiving without owing is one of the most potent power moves you can make.🙌
When you allow something good to come in without scrambling to match it, you’re declaring:
I am worthy of care, beauty, and praise—without conditions.
It’s the opposite of the Prover’s currency exchange.
It’s abundance without accounting.🧡
Let’s practice that now.
Mini Energy Check
When someone offers you a compliment, help, or gift:
Do you feel a quick spike of tension or pressure to respond?
Do you find yourself explaining, downplaying, or giving something back right away?
Does your chest or jaw tighten? Do you tense and lean forward (ready to “earn” it)? Or do you immediately go into your head without letting it land in your body first?
If yes, your Prover pattern might be running the show. This week, we interrupt it.
“If someone says I look great, I immediately want to say, ‘Oh, this is so old’ or ‘I didn’t get any sleep.’ I just can't seem to take it in.”
— Self-Love & Success Essentials Participant
3 Prompts to Help You Shift, Align, and Act in real time
Exclusive to weekly readers, these prompts are designed for my personal Meredith AI Coach—trained in the Nothing to Prove framework to guide you into insight and inspired action, right when you need it.
Open the AI Coach here 👇
https://link.pauseboxco.com/Meredith-AI
🔥 Prompt 1:
“I notice I deflect compliments. Can you help me explore what I’m protecting myself from when I do that?”